I could not care less what consenting adults do in the privacy of their homes. What Mrs. FLG and I do isn't their business; what they do isn't mine. However, I think the people who argue that people are born gay miss something very important in their disgust of somebody who calls homosexuality a choice.
I firmly believe that people are born gay. To be more precise, some people are born in a way that makes them sexually attracted to members of the same sex. (Incidentally, I think bisexuals are simply confused. One is either straight or gay, but that is neither here nor there.) So, FLG, born gay, everything is good, right?
Well, uh, not exactly. Even if one is born gay, they still make a choice each and every time to engage in sexual activity with a member of the same sex. Whether they want to do it because of biological reasons is not especially relevant. The issue is still whether the act itself is okay.
Let me provide an example. Men are more violent than women. I don't think many people would dispute that. Some might, but let's assume it nonetheless. If men are biologically more predisposed to violence, then by similar logic shouldn't men get less jail time for committing violent acts than women? They are born that way, right?
Whatever word you want to use, correctness, morality, goodness, rightness, etc of homosexual sex is separate from the issue of whether people are biologically predisposed to prefer homosexual sex. Homosexuality is different from race or gender, for example, because one does not make a decision, surgery and Michael Jackson aside.
I cringe at biological justifications for bad behavior. Not too long ago, I wrote a post about how men make an instantaneous decision about whether they want to have sex with each woman they see. I included this important point:
I am sure some women, or many for that matter, will object to the idea that all men they meet make a decision about whether they want to have sex with them, but this is like objecting to the Sun rising in the East or breathing. It just is. Nevertheless, one can make arguments about how their actions towards women ought to be, but saying men shouldn't think that way is completely futile.
One cannot reasonably say what a person can or may think. The mind just doesn't work that way. However, one can certainly make distinctions as well as moral and normative claims about actions and deeds. Indeed, we must make these distinctions and claims.
So, the issue really is whether the act of homosexual sex is right or wrong. I take a sort of Utilitarian perspective on the whole issue -- the most good for the most people type of thing. If people are happy having sex with other members of their own sex, and it's consensual, I don't particularly give a shit. I do have some issues with the promiscuous, casual, and unsafe sexual activity among parts of the male homosexual community because I believe the negatives to the public health overwhelm their individual happiness in many cases. Nonetheless, I assume they are knowledgeable adults who are aware of the consequences.
So, I've few, if any issues with homosexuality, but not because people are born that way.